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This house is so great!

In which I’ve moved to Oregon, a state I haven’t lived in since the early 90’s!

We found a house in Milton (or is it Freewater?) and have moved into it. It’s an eight-block walk from the cheese shop for me, and I’m grateful that it cuts his commute in half.

Big old tree in the yard! Brick flower boxes along the whole front (in which I will probably plant food — tomatoes and herbs)! Tons of parking (there’s more around the far side you can’t see in this picture), in case we have, I don’t know, a small concert?

Our neighbor to the north is a creek and an apple orchard.

Our street is adorable:

Six houses on a dead end! No through traffic! Cute and quiet, and we’ll never see another fender bender! So far, the loudest sounds we’ve heard are dogs (this town is rife with canine Americans; there are at least a dozen who woof at me on my walk to and from work) and the engines of our neighbors’ vehicles.

Guys, THIS HOUSE IS SO GREAT. It’s so great. It’s positively lovely and I guarantee you I don’t deserve it. It has every amenity we could want, from two bedrooms to a garage to a second bathroom. There’s a dishwasher, tons of cupboards, a coat closet and a linen closet, and a built-in curio cabinet!

(The owner told me she’d kept Precious Moments in it, back in the day, and isn’t clear now why she ever did, but there it is: a place for my teapots and other random ephemera.)

Look at the light in this, the main bathroom! I love it! (And the fan actually works. It’s like a hotel bathroom, with a high shower head and plenty of room and shelves for products.)

The second bathroom is full-sized, and has a window and a shower with a sitting bench in it. I don’t know that we’ll ever use it much ourselves, but it’ll be handy if we have guest.

There’s also an enormous back yard surrounded by a privacy fence.

There’s no exit from the house to the back yard (you have to go outside and through a fence gate to enter it), and when I look at it all I think is “YARD WORK,” but my aunt let us take an abandoned lawn mower from the shed in the yard of a house she owns and my better half seems to be fine with the idea of keeping it up, so I intend to mostly ignore the entire space since there’s so much front yard and porch and concrete apron to enjoy. We’ve already discussed getting a BBQ, which I expect we’d never bother dragging into the back yard unless we were having a large gathering.

If there are any flaws, they are these: there are very few grounded outlets, the stove is electric (I’ve already burnt three dishes), and the glorious kitchen sink window looks into the garage rather than at the orchard.

The garage has a window, thankfully, but still, I’m sure the view was much better before the garage was built.

We don’t have any furniture except for the desk he bought for his computer, but the family is going to give us some chairs and a dresser!

The bedrooms have lovely wood floors, and built-in heating.

The LR has a heat exchanger in the wall and two windows. The place came with curtains, lace in the kitchen and living room and neutral panels in both bedrooms. So much storage. So well laid-out.

It’s so nice to be reunited with our stuff after nearly four months; I’m particularly happy to have my dishes and pots and pans, and the rest of my wardrobe. We’re 75% unpacked and very comfortable.

Yay amazing new house!

Moving, continued

In which AAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!

Cycling rapidly between “This pile of boxes will absolutely fit in the U-Box container, no problem,” and “This pile of boxes WILL NEVER FIT IN THE CONTAINER, AND I SHOULD FREAK OUT, BECAUSE THAT WILL TOTALLY HELP!!!” and isn’t it cool how moving just never gets less stressful, no matter how you do it?

The kitchen cupboards and drawers are empty. The fridge is very nearly empty; I kept the cheeses, and a bag of walnuts, and stuff I was intending to eat for breakfast until I just now, while typing this, realized there’s no way to cook it since all the pans are packed.

(I threw away so much food today. Gawd. It feels terribly wasteful, even though I did try to make sure we ate as much of it as possible. We only decided to move five or six weeks ago. No way to eat ALL the condiments and random dry goods. But goddamn, I have thrown away probably $200 worth of opened boxes, packets, and jars.)

Bathroom is emptier than a motel bathroom: there’s only the shower curtain, one towel, one washcloth, Qtips, matches, and the toiletry stuff we use daily, in travel bags.

Bedroom’s as done as it can get before container day, I think. We still have clothes in the closet, but that’s just a few minutes to pack.

We have more lamps than I guess I’d realized, somehow. Five? I’ll keep any we have room for, but none of them are particularly cool.

Basement storage has been gone through and is about a third of what it was before, mostly just Christmas stuff now. (My man is amazing. Last week I mentioned sorting the storage was on the list, and he just went and did it.)

I’m essentially packed for my two nights in Atlanta. Most of the stuff’s in the suitcase, at any rate, in an untidy pile, and I know where the other stuff is. Honestly, the timing is pretty crazy (who decides to go on a retreat for two of the last three nights before a cross country move?!?!), but on the other hand, I’ll be in a great mental state for a long drive.

I’ve apologized several times for fucking off right before we leave for Washington, but he seems utterly unruffled and fine about quite possibly having to steam clean the carpet on his own. I’ll try to get it done before I go, but we might be fucking with the remaining furniture or something. (Nobody’s bought the couch or coffee tables, and there are two shitty office chairs and a desk that we need to do something with.) He’s so mellow, it’s just completely wonderful.

Every time I make a huge pile of garbage and recycling, he just gets up and takes it out. I haven’t taken a single thing out to the dumpster because he just handles it.

Any rate, I have a burrito in the fridge I made yesterday when I wanted to wash the dish the refried beans were in so I could pack it. I think I’m gonna go nuke and eat it!

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Nearly done packing BUT EVERYTHING LOOKS LIKE HELL

In which it’s actually not that bad?

T minus four days and mostly packed! Here’s the pile:

There’s also the bed, half a dozen boxes in the basement, and another half dozen out of shot or not yet packed, but that’s the main bulk of it.

It’s really not that bad, but I keep vacillating between “Oh, we’re FINE” much of the time and a panicky HOLY SHIT THERE’S TOO MUCH AND IT WON’T FIT AND I’LL HAVE TO THROW SOMETHING PRECIOUS OUT because my mind’s an asshole.

I’ve watched the U-box video — you can get a LOT of stuff into one of those containers — and the specs say it fits 257 cubic feet, so intellectually, I know it’s fine. But. Ugh.

My original guesstimate was 40 boxes and ~800 pounds (not including the bed, the microwave cart, the microwave, and the aluminum shelving unit). I think we’ll come in below that number of boxes, probably closer to 30, and well under 2000 pounds, which is the U-box max.

Also, since we’re driving, there’s overflow room in the car. We’re taking our luggage packed with clothes/toiletries, our computers and devices, the one surviving plant, some kitchen stuff I’ll want access to (mostly my spice collection, espresso, and dry goods), and a box of mending so I’ll have something to do during the 24 hours of drive time.

On top of the move, I’m going to Atlanta for two nights for my annual Amma trip, which is less than ideal timing, but that’s the only time I could go. (I had originally planned to see Her in Dallas this year, but couldn’t get a nearby hotel room and didn’t want to have to deal with taking taxis back and forth at odd hours, or trying to hitch rides with other devotees.) He’ll probably be at a local motel those nights, unless he decides to sleep on the floor in the apartment — our bed will be in the U-box by then, on its way to Washington.

In conclusion, everything is under control but I feel unsettled and stressed anyway! Additional proof that feelings are mostly garbage data!

UPDATE: Okay, I’ve packed the rest of the kitchen and am freaking out again, TOO MUCH STUFF, OMG IT’LL NEVER FIT!!!1! *headdesk* Andy WHY do we have so much opened, unfinished, un-donatable food?! Such a waste! Why the FUCK didn’t I serve all this before now?! I KNEW WE WERE MOVING.

T-minus one week

In which it’s not a real blog post, just moving notes.

To take IN THE CAR with us so we have access to it (packed mainly in luggage/duffels/backpacks):

– couple weeks worth of clothing
– shoes
– computers/monitors/electronics and power/chargers etc.
– basic toiletries/beard, hair & teeth stuff, vision, makeup, tweezers, shit like that
– documents file box
– instant pot
– gameboy
– spice rack, espresso & moka pot
– mending and journaling crap
– vaping crap (+ misc juice for bro)
– amma doll.

IN THE U-BOX, everything we can live without for a month or more:

– bed
– cart
– shelf unit? (if there’s room)
– big mirror
– clothing/coats/shoes
– kitchen
– bath
– microwave?
– linens, rugs
– electronics, TV, console/s
– lamps?
– books
– altar
– pictures
– fans
– toolbox
– xmas stuff.

Misc notes:

– pack extra clothes in the big hamper? rather than a box?
– wrap big mirror in blanket/s
– pack misc crap I may not be able to fit in the Ubox in a separate box so it can be mailed or trashed?
– repack the books, that box is too heavy
– figure out how to get rid of the couch
– finish getting crap together for final Goodwill donation.

Items in progress:

– bedroom closet
– kitchen
– packing for Amma trip 6/27-6/29

Completed:

– living room
– front closet (except chemicals: leave those for free?)
– bathroom (except curtain/hooks)
– my desk
– basement storage

Holy cow, I probably already have a job!

In which *LOUD SCREECHING NOISES*!!!

Embo told me she’d heard that an Oregon dairy might be opening a cheese shop in Walla Walla. I immediately went online and got my Washington state food handler’s card and updated my resume with the Wisconsin cheese course I recently completed.

Then I went to the dairy’s website, found their contact information, and sent them a friendly email with my resume attached.

THEY REPLIED. I REPLIED BACK.

THEY’VE ALREADY OFFERED ME A PART-TIME JOB BASED ON MY RESUME AND OUR EMAIL CORRESPONDENCE! And they totally want to meet the first week in July to discuss more!

They definitely have a cheese shop in Milton-Freewater, and they also do the Walla Walla farmers’ market. I don’t know if the Walla Walla cheese shop is real or just gossip, but:

I already have a job!

My current fantasy is that we move to Walla Walla, I train in Milton-Freewater while my better half looks for (and ideally finds) work (so he can drive me to and from training), and then I get to work in the new Walla Walla cheese shop, pairing delicious cheeses with local wines, and I don’t have to buy a car! HOW GREAT WOULD THAT BE?!

If the WW storefront is just gossip, I might have to become a car owner, which would be meh, but hey: CHEESE SHOP JOB. They actually make cheese, too, so I could learn about cheese-making and affinage.

I’m terrifically stoked right now, and totally ignoring all the fucking packing we need to do!

Sold the dresser today

In which there are NO MORE DRAWERS!

Yesterday, I put our shitty, old, used, and dinged up $99 IKEA chest of drawers on Craigslist, and got three responses in under three hours.

A kid came and picked it up this afternoon, and now all the crap that was in it is on the bed.

I don’t really understand why the listing got three responses, but boy did it. The third person even said, “I’ll give you twice as much as you asked and come pick it up RIGHT NOW,” which really baffled me. You haven’t even seen it, what if it’s worse than I said?

Oh, well, whatever, now there aren’t any drawers! And it really feels now like we’re moving!

Holy shit, I guess it’s happening?

In which we’ve decided to move!

I’ve made no secret of the fact that I’m not a fan of the weather out here. There’s no spring or fall, just sweltering, muggy summer, and blizzard season.

Living in Uptown is kinda cool in that there are art stores and coffee shops and diners and bars and bookstores all within a few blocks, but it’s also very loud, never dark, and pretty expensive. We’ve had two bikes stolen from inside our locked apartment building. And there was that episode with the goddamned fire extinguisher, too. I mean, it’s city living.

But we’re not really city people. We don’t take advantage of concerts or museums. We don’t bar crawl or see shows. We barely even go out to eat. We’ve been to two Twins games in five years.

We haven’t put down any roots or made any friends. We’re just here for his job, and that’s it. Nothing else ties us to Minneapolis. I’ve been getting Meetup emails for years, but everything I’d like to go to is always when I’m at work. I never did find a band.

They, his job, sent him to Illinois for half a month, and when he got back he said he hadn’t gotten pissed off at all driving around Springfield (pop. 115k), but since being back in Minneapolis he’s just been aggravated. Hates his commute. Said he’d like to go live in a smaller town. Didn’t much have a preference of which smaller town, isn’t really interested in moving back to Michigan, knows I’d like to go back to Washington state.

So. We’re moving across the country when our lease is up at the end of next month. I’m so fucking happy I could scream!

Plan right now is to get rid of/sell our furniture because none of it is particularly fine or worth hauling (except, hopefully, the microwave cart, which is really cool, and the bedroom mirror, which is also really cool), box up the remaining stuff (clothes, quilts, towels, hobbies, kitchen, and a prodigious amount of electronics: I’m estimating about 800 pounds/40 boxes), and either tow it or have it shipped, and drive to Walla Walla. Crash at the ancestral pile for the time it takes to get jobs. Live in the Pac NW again!

Well, “again” for me. He’s always lived in the Midwest, being from here.

Have a social life again! Have family force us to show up for Easter brunches or whatever! Go to open mics. Rent a house with a porch (I mean, on the one hand I’d love to live with G’ma forever, but on the other, one does like having her own kitchen, and S. definitely likes his privacy). Buy a bicycle. Find a new couch!

Truth be told, I want to live in the side apartment, with the tiny gas stove and the patio with the steel furniture, but my brother’s still living in it, though he does speak constantly of wanting to leave.

I want to get a part-time job in a tasting room. If I can sell cheese, I can certainly sell wine. I want him to find a nice job in Walla Walla (fingers crossed we don’t end up in Pasco or Spokane) with banker’s hours and holidays off and the easiest commute ever.

Suddenly my To Do list is MASSIVE. Move across the country in two months! Egad!

We’ll be taking a lot of trips to Goodwill in the next eight weeks.

I need to go post some furniture on Craig’s List.

Breakfast

In which there’s a blurb.

I slept really late. So late that it’s 2:19 and I’ve only been up long enough to shower, cook and eat, and make the bed! I’m not even dressed!

My hair’s clean, though, and this was delicious:

Breakfast

I have no idea why I thought I needed twelve hours of sleep, but I’ve always slept a lot and still do (more because I can, I think, than because I need to). I keep seeing research about sleep and metabolism and circadian rhythms and the effect of artificial light thereon, and I feel like, well, I’m lucky enough to have such an incredibly open schedule that I might as well just sleep until I wake up, because God knows I’m not limiting my exposure to artificial light at all.

I mean, we’ve got blackout curtains on all the windows, sure, but we live in Uptown where it is never dark, and between the two of us we have at least, what, five tablets, and two phones? And that’s not even counting two dual-monitored desktop computers, two laptops, and a television. It’s literally wall-to-wall blue light up in this bitch, is what I’m sayin’. Scott is perpetually sleep-deprived, but then, who isn’t at his age.

Anyway, it’s gorgeous outside, so after I’ve finished my coffee I’m going to do the dishes, make up a quick grocery list, and head off to the store. Pretty sure the bike needs new tires but hopefully it’ll hold enough air to get to Cub and back with something for dinner.

The birds are chirping, the sun is shining, and the tree out front has gone from only the merest hint of buds to actual greenery in the past six days:

Finally

I really need to get outside a bunch in these next few weeks, because after that it’ll be summer and I’ll be in the bathtub crying with a bag of ice for four months straight. I was so miserable last summer that I’m actually considering one of those floor A/C units. (I’ve also been half-assedly apartment hunting, but moving is such a bitch, and the expense is daunting this year because we’re booked for two vacations: Amma in July, and then my grandmother’s 95th as well as the Wendover-Briggs wedding in September.) They’re, like, three hundred bucks or something, but anything to be feel less terrifically awful during the hot months. This apartment is an oven.

Well, coffee’s drunk and the goddamned dishes aren’t going to do themselves!

Living in Uptown

In which I’m all about the neighborhood.

I’m an Uptown girl!

Uptown!

After a full month, I think I’ve come to the conclusion that it’s not that I’m stupid and missing something, it’s that there really is nowhere to put our remaining stuff. It has to go away somehow, or get packed into the basement storage closet, because there’s just no way to organize it. And I’m sick of having bags and boxes in my living room! Ugh!

For people who don’t have much shit, we have too much shit. Hell, we have an entire drawerful of single-function kitchen gadgets. I mean, I’m sure I really did feel like I needed a garlic press, tongs, corkscrew, can opener, and thermometer at one time or another, but all that crap in one drawer and it’s basically a bunch of shit that wants to gnaw your arm off at the wrist. Dude, seriously, that drawer is dangerous and pointy. Stay out of it.

I’ve also got a bit of buyer’s remorse, on the level of the apartment’s issues. The window and air conditioner leak when it rains. None of the outlets will hold a plug, so everything’s always falling out, which is frustrating as hell — I can’t even count how many times we’ve had to reset the digital alarm clock on the nightstand, or how often the internet’s gone out because the router plug (which we have taped to the wall) just fell out.

Laundry list of first world problems. I know. I know. There’s more, of course:

The A/C basically only half-works. It comes on, but even if you have it on full blast, it cycles off every few minutes and just blows recycled air. (Even if you run it for hours it never gets cold in the apartment, and merely cooking a meal makes the place unbearable even with the door freshly weather sealed and two fans circulating the air). Half the lights in the kitchen overheat after ten minutes and turn themselves off, so cooking and dishes and cleaning is done mostly in a sort of dim gloom. And it’s smaller. And there’s no cross breeze. Plus it costs more than the other place!

But the location is great. I love the location. Bars, stores, tacos, falafel, liquor, parks, lakes, libraries, coffee, nail salons. Pretty much anything you could ever want is within walking distance.

Well, except for a job. I still don’t have one of those, but I’m not out of money yet so I’m trying not to freak out about it. I basically don’t let myself go out and spend money more than once a week, and usually that’s either a trip to The Egg & I for breakfast, or down to CC Club for a drink. Just to get out while it’s not blizzard season and enjoy the fact that I can. But basically I’m afraid to spend, because part of me is convinced I’ll never get another job again. Too many online friends out of work for two or more years, all those ladies at Home Depot with two or three jobs, my age, plus getting turned down by that little CU for both of their P/T teller gigs…

Oh, and this: I applied at the wrong grocery store. My Saturday interview last weekend wasn’t over here at the neighborhood store, it was 4 miles and a half hour bus ride away, on the other side of what Scott described as “pretty sketchy areas.” Never occurred to me that the Cub on Lake street would actually be on Lagoon, and that the one on 26th is actually called the Lake Street one. Because how would anyone who doesn’t work there even know that?!

Anyway, we moved here so I could make friends and have a life without needing to buy a car or drag my beloved everywhere all the time. To make friends, you go out. Frequently. And people get used to seeing you and start talking to you, and the next thing you know you’ve been off on adventures and you have a back story and now you’re friends. The last time I went through this process in a new town I was spending the last of my money like a dumb kid (which obviously worked out okay or I wouldn’t be here, but still isn’t very responsible) or I was on unemployment. It takes a lot of money, actually, to just hang out in a bar or a bookstore or a coffee shop enough to belong there. Well, “a lot” if you have no income, I mean.

So I now live somewhere cool! Yay! And I’m not doing shit. Boo. Right now I have time and no money; by the time I’m working again I’ll have money and no time (and it’ll be too cold to go anywhere anyway). I’m basically screwed either way.

I should really be looking for a band, but it’s too hot. I just can’t even. Actually I found a couple of musicians via Craigslist last spring and then blew off following up with them because of work and moving and travel and blah blah blah I suck.

The old place was closer to Scott’s work, had a park next door, no traffic, everything worked, was bigger, was cheaper. He didn’t want to move; I did. I just didn’t like the neighborhood, because everything was a mile or more away over an overpass. Now I like the neighborhood but I’m too old and too conservative to spend money without a job and I basically just look at it out the window and feel like an asshole because I know any second now there will be three feet of snow out there and it’ll be twenty below and it won’t matter that there’s a corner store because I’ll just wait ’til the weekend so I can get a ride in the car to the grocery, like I did at the old place, and we’ll have moved for nothing.

Because that’s how the Midwest works. You’re frantic in the spring and fall to Go Out And Do Things, and the lakeshores and streets are absolutely stuffed with humanity. During summer there’s still a lot of bodies (because these people don’t seem to understand that HUMIDITY IS AWFUL) but less than spring and fall, I think, and in the winter you hardly ever see anybody outside besides in grocery store parking lots, at all, ever, because the weather will legit kill you. They don’t even plow most of the sidewalks, because people aren’t walking.

Lots of traffic at our intersection. Really a strong noise comparison with the old place. Cars here 24 hours a day, lots of emergency vehicles, foot traffic pretty much all the time. Lots of activity and vibrancy. It’d probably feel amazing if I knew anybody, but mostly I still feel like a tourist. Or a tourist’s mother.

Seriously. I unconsciously classify the vast majority of people who walk by as “kids.” How did I get this old? Continue reading Living in Uptown

Here’s my schedule!

In which Scott came home for lunch and told me it’s now confirmed that we can actually move this weekend.

Today: pack.
Tomorrow: pack.
The day after: pack and clean.
Saturday: MOVE. RENT A TRUCK AND MOVE TO UPTOWN.
Sunday: unpack.
Monday: unpack.
Tuesday: drive to Chicago for a 3-day Amma program.

I blew off my second week of notice — 4 shifts — at Home Depot because we thought this might happen, but now it actually is happening and OMG WHY AM I TYPING I NEED TO BE DOING LAUNDRY AND PACKING. MOAR. BOXES.

From Public

(Oh, that credit union interview was yesterday, and I think it went really well! Should hear back by the end of the week. It would be so great to work and live so close together. Especially if that work has a regular schedule and isn’t fucking retail. Did I even mention that the very instant I could request days off to see Amma I did so, and then last week, after over a month’s deliberation, they finally denied me July 4th off? Even without the move I would have quit over that. A year’s worth of shitty scheduling and overscheduling, and you can’t give me one holiday off?)